Spiral Knights - ...Am I being annoying?

...Am I being annoying?

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Sun, 02/19/2012 - 01:43

Psychodestroyer

...I don't know, but I have this feeling that there are a few people I know whether ingame or not who I may be a slight nuisance to.

I can't shake the feeling, and was just wondering, aside from the people it's obvious I'm being sarcastic/troll to, does anyone who knows me find me irritating?

I'm serious, I've got this feeling and I can't shake it off. And usually it's because I'm talking too much or about stuff the recipient really does not care about, but they don't have the heart/guts to tell me to stop, so I just keep going.

I'm not joking, I really, really want to know.

If so, tell me now, and what it is that's irritating/you want me to stop. Ingame mail is fine.

I'm not going to name which person(s) I seem to think this comes from, but feel free to reveal yourselves if you feel like it.

This feeling...I find it quite...unsettling, to say the least. Putting aside the fact that it makes me feel like an annoyance or that I've upset someone, but can't tell what/why or even if the person(s) got over it a week ago.

And if you please, don't joke/troll this thread, I'm seriously unsettled here.

Also, people who it's obvious I'm trolling/other, don't post/contact me either, for obvious reasons.

EDIT: Also don't post things like 'Nah, Psy, you're a great guy' or other such praise, serious or not, because in this kind of thread that makes me feel like an attention seeker or something.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 03:27

No-Thanks

Zelda

i suggest u talk to "the recipient" instead of making a thread, that smells like troll

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 03:42

Psychodestroyer

The thing is...

I can't tell WHO it is specifically, nor if it's just one person. It could be 20 for all I know, although it's probably not THAT bad.

And if I DID know who it was, and contacted them about it asking them if I was annoying them or something, they'd probably shrug it off or just tell me no for reasons I've already stated.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 03:49

Erridunno

No effence but it does sound

No effence but it does sound like ur attention seeking.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 03:52

Jamoo

Says the one who went on a necroing spree.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 04:08

Knight-Solaire

Praise the sun!

@ Erridunno

Attention in one form or another is actually necessary for good mental health. When we do not receive positive attention we start to seek negative attention to compensate; that is for example what drives a class clown or even some criminals to act in ways that defy social norms.

If someone wants to seek attention through asking others' opinions of themselves, there's no real reason to complain. There's no harm in it, negative attention seeking is avoided, and said person gets to better themselves in the process.

(Most people would respond to that with a "everyone on the internet is a psycology major," much in the same way they would to anyone saying anything about economics, but I think a few college-level Behavioral Sciences courses at least qualify me to make a statement like that :P )

@Jamoo

When you point your finger at someone, three point back at you. Riddle me this: what did your comment add to this conversation, exactly?

@ Psychodestroyer

Honestly I don't know you well enough nor have I read enough of your posts on the forums to be able to answer that question. When I think of "that annoying guy on the SK forums," you aren't the one that comes to mind for whatever that's worth. It's admirable that you're actually willing to ask though; most people see anonymity as a reason not to care about others at all.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 04:12

No-Thanks

Zelda

u want instructions how to be less annoying untill that feeling is gone/ur mood is changed, and u want them to be speculated by uninvolved persons. if u manage to not get lost, u might as well use google for that purpose

2nd version is always ur just trolling

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 04:19

Guyinshinyarmour

Lul, attention mongering. By posting this thread, which is all about you, you've already taken that mark. No way you're gonna diffuse it.

The real question is, do you feel you're doing anything annoying? If so, stop doing that thing. If not, you're paranoid. Stop being paranoid. Interestingly, if you bug people over your paranoia, *that's* your annoying thing. In which case you didn't introspect enough.

You could also, I dunno, not care what other people think.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 04:36

Jamoo

@Knight-Solaire

When you point your finger at someone

Stop.
I'm not pointing my finger at anyone, but let's break down what I've said, bit by bit.

What Erridunno said - No effence but it does sound like ur attention seeking.
That surged up some irony, from what I remembered of Erridunno bumping threads that have been dead for over year.
To me, that seemed like Erri searching for attention, but why else would he do it for?

What you said - Riddle me this: what did your comment add to this conversation, exactly?
I was not necessarily posting in reference to the original topic, merely presenting my views on Erri's comment.
So no need of riddling, it actually adds absolutely nothing to this conversation whatsoever.

Back to the original topic at hand -
Psycho, to be honest, it's what Knight-Solaire said.
When I think of someone annoying via the forums, lots more come to mind.
Those that do I shan't name here, because that there is pointless.
But I also see you don't want anyone saying you're not annoying.
Hmm, tricky one. But everyone has been annoying at some point. Can everyone admit to that.
That they've felt as though they've been annoying someone, so that they felt awkward inside?
I think that the lesson at hand here today, is that nobody's perfect.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 06:45

Iron-Volvametal

@Erridunno

No Offense, but didn't you make a "I got Ban :(" Thread? Isn't that Considered Attention Seeking?

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 09:05

#10

Xylka-Mkii

^ What Iron and Jamoo

^ What Iron and Jamoo said.

And @Psychodestroyer You don't seem to be annoying. I can think of a LOT of people that fall into that category, but no name n' shame here. I'd say that overdone trolling, necroing, attempting to do both, and just plain stupidity puts people on my bad side, but for the most part a lot of us on the forums are basically philosophers (there are exceptions) so we don't tend to annoy each other, as much as we get in debates.

You seem fine.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 09:21

#11

Wolfkit

Is it just me, or did you

Is it just me, or did you base this on GLaDOS's speech right before fighting Wheatley?

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 10:41

#12

Imperialstriker

A simple way to gauge if I find anyone annoying:

If I get openly agitated with anyone in any way, I find them annoying.

Since that hasnt happened when Ive hung with you ever, you're fine.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 11:25

#13

Rangerwillx

Nope.

I like your posts a good amount, definitely not annoyin' to me. I believe your insight is helpful.

TL;DR This is a short post. How come you're tl;dr-ing it? REALLY?

Real TL;DR Oh come on. Fine.

Final TL;DR Nope.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 11:53

#14

Psychodestroyer

This is more about people I know ingame, who also use the forums.

I get that most of you think I'm still just trying to get attention, and I can't change that, so I won't bother to try.

I'm talking about things that don't involve me obviously trolling someone, but more like...idk, I just have this random feeling I've upset a friend of mine, or a few.

It's more directed to ingame friends of mine, who may/may not also use the forums. I feel like I may have said something to upset one of them.

As for me saying not to say I'm not annoying, I meant that in the sense of don't say it in a post that denies it by praising me. Something like: 'No, you worry too much' is fine, but yeah, don't praise.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 13:08

#15

Redfevrier

You're Fine

I read the forums a lot more than I post and every time I encounter a post by you it's been either funny or insightful. Don't take that the wrong way though, I am not trying to praise you or fan your ego in any way- just being honest.
Personally, every time I post a question or say something impulsively I worry that I'm annoying someone- or making a bad impression and therefore ruining any possible friendship with a person that I respect, however I think that that's just part of human nature, we desperately want to be liked and we care about how others view us.
All in all, you're probably worrying too much- if you're really unsettled, maybe ask the friend 'have I insulted you?' or 'am I annoying you in any way?'.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 13:46

#16

Aemicus

Well, I've seen you a lot on

Well, I've seen you a lot on the forums but never in game, so I don't really know how you act outside of here, but you've never annoyed me. When I think of people who annoy me, it's mostly Odinthefather.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 14:05

#17

Paweu

If you are talking about

If you are talking about in-game; some people might find you annoying, but not because you are annoying, its because you do things that annoy them and that they can't handle due various circumstances.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 20:54

#18

Psychodestroyer

Paweu, you nailed it.

I feel like it's something they'd normally be able to take/find funny, but for some reason or another, were intolerant at the time and haven't quite gotten over the irritated-ness.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 21:28

#19

Paweu

If they are your friends,

If they are your friends, sure, they might have not gotten over, if you are trying to build some relations, this might be not the case. Some people simply hate small talk and anyone trying to get friendly with them. Don't blame them tho, they just want to be alone sometimes, not alone in the sense of surroundings, alone in sense of their very own moments in the game.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 21:33

#20

Iron-Volvametal

...

"Don't blame them tho, they just want to be alone sometimes, not alone in the sense of surroundings, alone in sense of their very own moments in the game."

Iron Salutes once again.

I do this almost all the time. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy Small talk, but I prefer to have a Quiet Group when doing Runs.

Sun, 02/19/2012 - 22:41

#21

Icycloud

orange

http://m.youtube.com/index?desktop_uri=%2F&gl=SG#/watch?v=ZN5PoW7_kdA

Are you as annoying as him ? Lol enjoy:)

Mon, 02/20/2012 - 00:53

#22

Psychodestroyer

Yeah-huh

Yup, got that already.

If any of my friends need to tell me about what they 'don't like about me', putting it bluntly, ingame mail to me is fine. What is said won't be distributed, and I won't hold it against you.

Or if you don't particularly care, post it here. That's also fine.

The feedback is appreciated guys. It's probably me overreacting like you said, but usually when I get this feeling, it's not wrong. Maybe exaggerated, but not wrong.

So even if its a 'You bother me when I'm trying to do something else', or 'Stop telling me about every you did in the past 5 mins' (<-I don't actually do that, it's just an example. ...Ok, maybe I do that to an EXTENT, but not THAT severe.), tell me or I won't know and I'll probably just keep doing it.

Mon, 02/20/2012 - 09:58

#23

Guardianknight

Well I would like to say that

Well I would like to say that I don't find you annoying at all.
If the knights you're thinking of are currently on your friends list, talk to them.
I know that if I was the one you thought was getting annoyed with you, I'd want you to talk to me about it
rather then posting a thread here on the forums.

Obviously this is just a game but I understand you not wanting others to be annoyed with you.
That being said, it's not always your fault. Sometimes the other knight might be having a bad day
and something you say, which usually would be funny, comes across as annoying.

I hope you're able to work this out with whoever it may be and remember that even in a game,
there will generally always be someone who dislikes you for whatever reason and though you may
not be able to change that, you can always surround yourself with those of us who do enjoy your company.

The one and only, Guardianknight.

Mon, 02/20/2012 - 20:30

#24

Vendingmachine

GET HELP

Mon, 02/20/2012 - 21:09

#25

Psychodestroyer

........

That, I did not need.

/aside

Thanks Guardian. :)

Mon, 02/20/2012 - 22:27

#26

Iron-Volvametal

...

You're a talking Vending Machine, yet you're asking (a)Psycho to get Help...

Tue, 02/21/2012 - 08:28

#27

Pepperonius

@Psycho

Look at your friends list. Now look at me. Now back to your friends list NOW BACK TO ME. Sadly, I am not on your friends list, and cannot really comment on this, but i could be with a simple bit of mail.

You seem like a good guy, if perhaps a bit young. I don't see you are annoying (although this post could probably have been achieved by sending mail to the people you are worried about, to greater effect) but i can see a sense of insecurity. IANA psychologist, but i have some formal training, and i would suggest to you this: sit down, and write down the people you think you may have offended/annoyed. Think about what you may have done, and think of how their behavior has changed towards you, if at all. Narrow it down until you either realize that everything is fine, and you are feeling guilty over something you said or did, or until you find the offended party and apologize.

Failing that, just go about your day, and do your best to be a good person, and if someone has an issue with you for trying to be a nice guy, it's their problem and not yours.

Tue, 02/21/2012 - 08:56

#28

Oakgear

I don't see a problem

Everyone on the forums can be as annoying as the next, since everyone is constantly posting

Tue, 02/21/2012 - 11:52

#29

Fallconn

FALCON PUNCH!

@Psycho nah your not annoying, I AM!! :U

Wed, 02/22/2012 - 23:23

#30

Alzalea

I agree with

I agree with Paweu
@Psychodestroyer...you sound kind of guilty and insecure. And paranoid. Maybe it’s your personality to be talkative. Don’t feel bad about it. But I understand where you’re coming from. I often feel the same way. (That I’m annoying someone).I dont know you enough to make a judgment call but I don’t find you annoying. I think this situation is a forgive and forget. :)

Thu, 02/23/2012 - 02:11

#31

Psychodestroyer

...meh

Guilty, not so much.

Insecure? More than probably.

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