Every now and then there's something that comes up that gets you thinking- is this thing that I'm doing as right/good as I assume? Am I wrong? This is one of them, and I'd like you folks to analyze this and judge what I might have to do differently, if anything. I want to prevent mistakes that I make, not acknowledge they exist and keep making them.
During this Kataclysm event, I've taken a different approach to how I handle my parties; I leave it locked to random players, but open to friends and guildmates, so they can join me on a whim as I call out 'Kat!' via voicechat or a quick /g without having to root myself in place for a couple seconds to manually invite people (which can, situationally, lead to your death which then means a potentially horrible spawn point for your allies [especially when Grimalkins are around]). I've been running through levels as fast as possible, not caring for crowns, since the objective is pages and potentially books.
But, a buddy of mine (no name for you!) joined my open-to-friends/guild party without asking, and was frustrated with my methods of doing things- I was running through the level, skipping enemies and 'wasting' the energy he spent joining me. I told him I was using a combination of Mumble, an open party, and quick typing to replace manual invites for the sake of convenience/speed, but he thought it was laziness.
I argued that it's common courtesy to ask before joining anyone, even when their party is open, but they thought that an open party means anyone can join at any time without any prompting involved. It was less about the ~600cr loss from joining me and more about saying what I was doing was wrong, at this point. My ways of doing things were completely new to him, as were his to me; he was the first person in my friends list and guild who randomly joined me in months, and I was the first person he'd seen to have a party open without looking for uncoordinated joining.
So, to tl;dr it a bit- I keep my party open for speed and convenience while locking it to random players, expecting some sort of prompt from people that want to join unless I've already called out a Black Kat. Someone joined me at random while I was skipping everything in the level, only looking for BKs, and told me what I was doing is completely wrong, despite being the first person to do this in this event and in months past. He believes that having an open party means you don't have to ask to join.
I understand this is a one-time misunderstanding, but he argued that it was a bad idea in entirety.
Thoughts, suggestions, space manatees?
Well let's put it this way. You don't HAVE to open your party to anyone. You can be a complete jerkface and not let anyone into your party especially since it risks the odds of you getting the Book of Dark Rituals. Furthermore, if it is YOUR kindness that is allowing said annoying person to get pages without any hard work, they have absolutely no right to complain about how you are obtaining said pages. Personally I'd just unfriend him or ignore him, as he or she apparently does not understand the concept of 'Time = Black Kats = Pages"